Becoming A People’s Person
This article will not focus on the basics of dealing with people, but will rather focus on helping you become the kind of person that can influence and positively affect those around you. Some people can walk into a room and light it up, it can be politicians, scholars, CEOs, entertainers, sportsmen and from every walk of life.
They have an energy around them that makes others instantly gravitate to them. Although the people who can do this most effectively have been doing it since they were young, anybody can learn this ability.
Join Sammy Okeh in this series as he teaches on how you can become a peoples person.
– MAGNETIC PERSONALITY
Many books and articles on the topic of dealing with people tend to focus on smiling, eye contact, and body language as a way to have a positive impact on others. Those things are important but many books tend to forget the most effective way to win with people. Personality.
You can have great eye contact and a perfect smile but nothing; I mean nothing will attract people to you better than a winning personality. Great body language will get you there but a great personality will keep you there. A great personality is the cure-all when it comes to dealing with people.
A slightly above average employee will get promoted over a more qualified employee if that person has a better attitude, is better liked, and has a more positive effect on the people around them. Those are the qualities most people look for in leaders. Having an extremely effective magnetic personality can mean more friends, more dates, and more sales. During a speech on winning with people John C Maxwell said, “All things being equal people will do business with people they like. All things not being equal, they still will.”
To have a great personality you must be the type of person that other people want to be around. A people person with a great personality is an easy going person who can interact and positively affect many different kinds of people. As a people person, learn how to converse with people by being genuinely interested in who they are not what they can do for you. Begin to make others feel comfortable and create a positive atmosphere.
I have made it a habit to greet people before they greet me. Whether it is a long or short exchange, I display that I am interested in the other person by initiating the conversation.
To be continued….
Sammy Okeh (Samba)