Becoming A People’s Person 4
– MAKE OTHERS FEEL IMPORTANT
Most people are so concerned with how they are perceived that they spend most of their time making themselves look important. That really stems from being insecure. The people who are truly confident at socializing have learned that taking your eyes off of yourself is the best way to get a positive reaction out of people.
– BE WILLING TO HELP
Watch for opportunities to help others every day. At work, school, or even if you see someone that needs help at the store or class, offer you services somehow. The trick is not to ask them if they need help, try just helping them out. Taking the initiative shows more genuineness in the act. Asking, “can I help you with that?” or “would you like me to..?” makes it seem more like you are obligated to assist them. When the opportunity arises to help someone, make the move.
– BE INTERESTED IN THEIR INTERESTS
When trying to connect with people in a positive way, it is best to start with their interest. There are two major reasons why this is important. First you learn more about the person you are talking to. This is very important if you are in sales. You cannot make a sale until you understand who you are selling to. It is also important in social situations. You cannot build rapport with someone until you understand who you are talking to.
The second reason this is important is because this is a way to make others feel important. When you converse with someone about their interest, you build an understanding about the person and that person develops a bond with you because you have allowed them to share some of what is important to them with you.
– LEAVE THEM FEELING BETTER THAN WHEN YOU FOUND THEM
For some strange reason, humans love to dwell on the negative. The news is negative, celebrity gossip is negative, and when you hear co-workers talk about their jobs, family, or situations, it’s usually (you guessed it) negative. It’s easy to think about the bad things that happen in life because the good things are seen as unrealistic. But as a people person, you must learn to make others feel good by influencing them in a positive way.
Here is a way you can practice building influence and becoming the type of person others want to be around. The next time you are around someone who is focused on a negative aspect on life, slowly influence them until they say something positive. You can agree with them about what they are saying but sometime during the conversation add a positive aspect or possibility to it. If someone you work with is complaining about their, job be sympathetic about what they are saying. Then remind them of the added advantages, holiday period, commission check or anything else that may be positive about the job.
Master these and you will be a great people person!!!
Sammy Okeh (Samba)